Checking priviledge

We are all in it together; both home and in diaspora, the thoughts and occasional outpour of emotions are all part of yawning for a better Nigeria.

I read an interesting post the other day whereby a lady was fed up with Nigeria layabout youths. They are always on the roads with their rucksacks and nowhere in particular to go. They are quick to complain on the state of economy as if they would ever be handed free cash even if economy was any different (true this, Nigeria is no social welfare cautious nation). She talked about the mediocrity of our artisans, they often take money without completing the tasks and worse of all is the finishing part of the work is less of what one expected.

The advice was that unemployed youths must look beyond riding Okada (motorbike) and get trained and ready to earn their living. And those who find it hard could return to the farm to grow stuff.

The post received quite a lot of attention which signals relatability.

I have learnt with Nigerians online that people tend to prefer to agree with opinions rather than offering a different perspective the writer may have missed out for fear of being unpopular.

One commenter eventually made a very good point that makes me check on my own privilege and to realise that, my state, my community or my family at home will never get better if I did nothing – not given up on people who have been marginalised by the society is our collective responsibility. The lady is of the opinion that Nigeria will be a better place if enough people realise they are privileged and do their bits for those who have been hit the hardest by the poor leadership.

This means layabout youths can not all be bad and lazy.

I do appreciate both ladies for speaking their minds, I especially liked the lady who pointed to the obvious of lack of equal opportunities that makes it harder for many to make headway.

I love that the post serves as a reminder that those of us who have a little bit more owe it to others to lend hands knowing that this country will never get better if the less privileged were left to rot.

While government policies need to be more reflective of the society, individuals who are doing their share of lifting people around them need not be discouraged.

Most people I know are appreciative and thankful when given helping hands. Some people can not be helped but we can not always let the few bad eggs spoil it for all.

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7 replies

  1. Hi Fola, I seem to remember the same thing mentioned “What is wrong with young people today? – A view from the past.”
    The following quotes illustrate that adults always complained about the behavior of the younger generation – even back in the days of the ancient Greek philosophers…Aristotle said this. I think we just have to have faith that young people will get their act together.

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  2. Hi FK, nice post.
    I have a question please correct me if I am wrong, but hasn’t this or something similar been the sentiment for a long time? For instance nearly all Nigerian families are committed to helping the less fortunate in their own family and and to a lesser extent village/hometown. So what is new in the idea this lady expressed? That being the case what will change.
    We talked a while back about the Ekiti Parapo organisation in London, which my friend belongs to. The reason for the existence is to channel funds back to Ekiti Parapo to develop it and thereby improve the lives of it’s inhabitants.
    That being said, her comments were more useful than the lady who criticised the youths and told them to either get skilled or labour on a farm. My question to her is that what she will tell her kids and or nieces or nephews. Before you can say that, you must provide some means of support ie getting them to draw up a plan and provide material support when needed like sponsoring their skills acquisition. Just throwing those comments out like that does nothing but antagonize or alienate the youths.

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    • You are right jco. She was not expressing anything new only that now we have social media and that is influencing many thoughts. I think the OP was frustrated which it isn’t hard to see, sometimes it can be daunting when one sees no end in sight. There was more to that post that I forgot to mention, she prefers to give her work to Ghanians, Togolese or a Chinese man to complete rather than a Nigerian as they always disappoint, sounds like she lives in Lagos. I thought that was really sad, how would people ever get better if their own kind, in their own land refused to give them a chance?

      I totally agree with what you said that before one can give up, one needs to provide some means of support – this is the same angle that the other lady took.


      • The times I tried to patronise Nigerian businesses, they felt they were ‘doing me a favour’, even though I was prepared to pay the going rate. When Nigeria Airways existed, the service was the worst I’ve ever experienced when flying.
        The sentiment behind many Nigerian businesses is to charge as much as possible whilst delivering the least. The sentiment non-Nigerian businesses have is to ‘add value’ at a competitive price.

        The woman’s sentiment is understandable, but she should not lose hope. I guess word of mouth is the only reliable method, failing that one is really taking a chance.

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