Bigger picture of gender disparities

Earlier in March Nigeria senate refused to take a proper look at issues surrounding gender inequality in Nigeria, they decided to throw out the document that well-meaning Nigerians had prepared which unsurprisingly upsets many people.

Issue like this one highlights how divided and opportunity to find better way to fight issues that unfairly discriminate against women.

Thankfully, we have few people to shed more lights. Amongst the five key issues raised, I found this one most interesting:

Under Nigeria’s penal code guiding the northern parts of the country, “Nothing is an offence, which does not amount to the infliction of grievous harm upon any person and which is done by a husband for the purpose of correcting his wife. Such husband and wife being subject to any natural law or custom in which such correction is recognized as lawful.”

Each region has its own special rules, example of this is what we have up here whereby northern Nigeria are allowed to do as they wish to women – childbride to give one example citing Sharia law.

In the south, we have our own poison even with high number of educated women. I read with amazement how women, educated adult women went on each others’ throat  separating feminism from gender equality activists.

Anyone remember GEJ stealing is not corruption talk? Different issue but same mindset here.

So I learnt feminists are men-haters, wanted to do all that men do kind of women, they have been corrupted by western ideals, on the other hand gender equality advocates were the soft soul women who acknowledged the imbalance of opportunities between genders in the country but are divided in opinions giving bible and Quran texts as excuse.

I know when we have issues with definitions, it signals war-within. Not sure what the big deal is with definitions.

How about we agree these issues are human rights issues that require all of our attention, a necessary revisit to the constitution if we were to be a better society.

To see how gender inequality is so damaging to Nigerians in general is to draw examples from within our families, our communities.

For example, land ownership in a big problem for women regardless of where you are in the country. It is a family matter and we have been doing it for centuries is what people usually say, but it has never worked to the benefit of everyone.

Those who suffer the most are the ones at the bottom of the economic ladder – how is it fair to further rub mud in their faces?

If you have five girls and a boy in a family, automatically the father’s farmland belongs to the boy, even if the boy has no interest in farming and moved away, he has the final say on how the land is to be used. Many of these cases are resolved within family and no problem afterwards, however there are countless cases that just left women in the family deflated and powerless.

During Madam Patience Jonathan’s time in Aso Rock, there were waves of women advocating for women rights to inheritance in the southeast. They took their meetings very seriously, both within and outside the country attracting supports. I am not sure anything solid came out of this meetings.

In the north I heard women can inherit but has to be lesser than men from the same family.

In Yorubaland from what I have seen, married daughters walk away from land inheritance – not even a question asked, except if all offsprings are women or arrangement were made within the family.

This article on Nigeria land tenure is well written, helps to see Nigeria as a whole and how Nigeria rural women are disproportionately affected by both customary and religious laws on land inheritance.

A bit sad that even on issues that are clearly human rights issues, women can’t agree enough to lend their voice – I do hope we all keep learning and realise nothing is ever going to change if want to continue in the old, worn path.

13 thoughts on “Bigger picture of gender disparities

  1. Hi Folake,

    I was delighted to see this topic here, I enjoyed the way you addressed it.

    It’s laughable that feminists are assumed to be man-haters, wanting fair treatment doesn’t equate to hatefulness.

    Still, I understand somewhat where that distorted school of thought stems from. Some people have not evaluated the equal rights quest carefully, thus they erroneously approach it from an “Us vs. Them” angle. Expectedly, when hints of “Vs.” appear, it usually feels like a battle field. 😀

    I’m equally amazed at the supposed distinction between feminists and gender quality advocates, aren’t they seeking for the same thing? Perhaps that’s what labels do, they cause segregation even among comrades.

    Well, if labels are a must-have, then I’d like an all-inclusive human rights label that covers both feminism and equal rights between women (not just in comparison to men alone). I will even stick it on my forehead.

    I suppose if the focus was more collective rather than boxed into a gender-specific comparison sphere, then it wouldn’t be such a touchy topic and women would become more united in their quest. I might be wrong though. Ah! We women have too much internal wahala to even speak with a united voice. Lol

    Thank you for sharing this thought-provoking post.

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    1. Thanks Nedoux. Totally agree here. I only wish our women could put aside our wahala, then focus on important human right issues.

      Did you see what the western women are doing now? Fighting their government to drop tax on sanitary products. I thought that was the coolest thing ever as we don’t chose to have periods – that is what I called feminism/gender rights advocate.


      1. Wow, no I didn’t see the news about this, I’ll search google now. Thanks.

        Lol… Indeed, we don’t choose to have periods, if we had that option, I know I will NEVER choose crampy discomforts. 😀

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        1. Hehehe. I can see why this wouldn’t make news in our dear Naija, to begin with sanitary products coming to us are probably taxed twice – the price for being girls.

          It has being on the news for a few years now, lots of resistance from the government but like any movement lots of good women persist.

          Here’s the Canadian folks –

          And the Aussies

          I like this website title

          And the UK here

          It is truly a good time to be alive, seeing all these changes, little by little.

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  2. When the women agree, the men will take them seriously. Strangely, that is still somewhat the men’s fault… He he he… Conundrum,

    You know, a lot has really changed but not really changed. All around me, here in the north (And I mean most parts of it) ordinary women (who can afford it) buy land, build houses & live in it. Some died and formally passed ownership to their ‘Sons’ only. I can’t help but feel the woman gives the man more of her rights with every turn she makes, of her own accord,

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    1. Thank you so much Aboki for that example.

      I can see mothers in Yorubaland doing exact same thing. I think we (I mean women) need to break this down to show ourselves how we have managed to perpetuate this gender inequalities in our ways.

      I totally agree that women must work together especially of key issues that affect us all…

      Na gode 🙂

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  3. Feminists don’t necessarily hate men they just don’t want to be discounted as a lessor human being than any man. The irony of it all is that at conception we are all female and it is in later development the fetus then differentiates in male or remains female. To discriminate 50% of the population because of gender is not only unfair but it is unwise.

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        1. Agreed. My mother always said to fight for my self and not for her, now I understand better, it’s unsettling to see that girls of my daughters age will have to struggle the same fate as generations of women before them – if things remain the same.

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          1. The fight is for the future women of the world. I don’t want the young girls to normalize anti-human rights issues. Just because things are done a certain way doesn’t make it right.

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