Royal highness: Then and now

What drives our decisions to behave certain way and not the other? Nigeria has a culture that relies on oral transfer of important events, which is fantastic but too much reliance on narratives based on mixed up memories is why we have repeated problems in our land. Here’s my way of keeping the history alive so we don’t fall into the same pit again.

My father was 45 years old when Oba Okunade Sijuade was crowned as Ooni of Ife. Two years prior, my parents decided to move to town in Modakeke. I was very little at the time so everything was exciting: the tarred roads, the NEPA (that was when it meant electricity), the tap water (in front of our rented house was a public tap water, that is history now).

For strategic reasons, my parents chose to live in the heart of the town, Akarabata Street, for its proximity to Idi Omo meaning easy access to transportation to my sister’s school at Oluorogbo High School (had to be transferred to Modakeke High School shortly after Sijuade’s intention was apparent), walking distance to Seventh Day Adventist Grammar School for my older brother (this school was partly burnt too between 1997 -2000)

LA Primary School Alapata, Modakeke
LA Primary School Alapata, Modakeke, photo 16/04/2015

My only younger sister at the time  attended LA Primary School, Alapata – this same school looks like the photo on the left today after the last big showdown of Oba Sijuade 1997 – 2000.

We all have stories to tell. While Oba Sijuade’s praise singers talk of his socialite lifestyle, my story is a familiar one to thousands of people both in Modakeke and Ife. Thankfully, the man did not hold the key to everyone’s life, today many people including myself have been blessed but I still think of so many people who have never recovered fully even after 18 years.

Earlier this month when Prince Enitan Adeyeye Ogunwusi was tipped to be the next Ooni. I wrote about it here. Not too surprising he is the chosen one in the end, seems to be the best of the bunch.

My congratulations to the Prince. I’m sure he has plenty of time for reflections at Ilofi where he stays for the next 21 days as part of rites of passage.

Is there going to be improved relationship now? I can only take people by their words after all what can we achieve without trust?

The other day I read Ogunwusi’s acceptance speech, there are a few points that are noteworthy. Ogunwusi talked briefly about being a father: a father learns to protect and care, I have never thought of Oba Sijuade as a father. I used to believe he didn’t have biological any child, not only because of the local side talk which was just a deliberate cheap joke, but because of his attitude towards youths i.e paying out of town youths and handing them sophisticated guns to fight in crises he started while his own children were tucked away.

I appreciate that Ogunwusi does not ignore the obvious, in his words: “In recent history one cannot mention Ile-Ife without acknowledging the Ife and Modakeke conflict. It’s unfortunate that lives were lost during the war between Ife and Modakeke; a war that had no economic value and displaced many lives.” Ooni Ogunwusi.

He further talked about visiting youths that were affected by this crisis. This is more than Oba Okunade Sijuade ever said after the crisis that he initiated at any time since 1981.

All sounds promising.

The more I read about the land ownership problem in Nigeria and other developing nations, the more I realise the enormity of work that must be done. It is a job for Nigeria government to set implementable rules that all must follow in order to bring dead capital to tangible asset.

The mid age adults of 1980 are now officially old, children of that time are mid age now. What an exciting time to be alive, wishing Oba Ogunwusi all the very best.

I agree with Delai Lama:

Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.”

Shifting excess weight

Beyond physical appearance is the real issue that need to be addressed, the desire to live a long and health life is enough of incentive to pay attention to ones own health.

To add to Nigeria long list of issues that we are not comfortable to talk about is overweight and its potential consequences. I’ve read that God created both fat and thin so no one should judge, easy to know when to take a bow when religion is dragged to obvious issue that we have power to manage.

A friend and I were chatting the other week, she is concerned about her mother’s health. The mother is diabetic and has high BP. As common as this is in Nigeria, we are not doing much about it as cause of sudden death is usually unspoken about.

My friend’s mother is one of the lucky ones to have a family who is supportive. As 75 years old living in the city with her daughter, her lifestyle is different from what it once was, her physical activity has reduced significantly since retirement from work however, in order to stay healthy she takes brisk walk twice a day, and cooks her food separate from the family as she is on low sodium diet. This on top of her prescribed drugs to help keep her health issues under control.

Dr Biodun Ogungbo regularly writes about health issues as it relates to Nigerians on Punch. This week his article is about raising awareness to the background health problems that lead up to stroke. His article titled “Big stomachs, big bottoms” – is one many Nigerians can associate with straight away.

The saying the bigger the better is true but at what risk?

Adults will always choose what’s more important to them, but since our health sector isn’t equipped to treat stroke well, maybe we owe it to ourselves and loved ones to stay healthy.

” Everyone must know the root causes of stroke such as high blood pressure and diabetes. High blood pressure or hypertension is the biggest underlying cause of stroke in Nigeria.”  “Others who have been diagnosed, stop taking medications for various reasons. Some because their pastor said they were cured at the last retreat!” Dr Ogungbo

To solve a problem is to recognise there is one. I am glad someone who knew about the increasing rate of stroke from professional angle is talking about it, hopefully news will spread so we can all take pride in helping one another to stay alive and healthy.