Severe trauma silenced victim

Reading the story of Rebecca reminds me of Maya Angelou (may her soul rest in peace).

Rebecca is a four-year old girl who was sexually abused by her own father in the same house she shared with her parents and siblings.

In Maya Angelou’s first memoir I know why the Caged Bird Sings, (or perhaps one of  the susequent ones) she shared the story of how she was raped by her mother’s boyfriend at 8 years old. Freeman, the rapist was jailed for one day but was murdered in the community shortly after his release. This whole experience led Dr Angelou to refused to talk for about 5 years because she had internalised the murder to be her fault, that if she hadn’t told on Freeman, he would not have been murdered.

Thankfully, Dr Angelou eventually regained her voice so much so that millions around the world have benefitted from it today.

I sensed Rebecca is probably experiencing similar PTSD as Maya Angelou did, and had decided to keep quiet as she probably blamed herself for father’s arrest and all the drama that follows.

Rebecca’s mother was concerned about the girl’s muteness and the fact that she has not been performing well at the nursery, sadly no one is thinking about the psychological effect of the whole ordeal on the girl.

“…Rebecca has not been talking until she did twice just two months ago. And since then, she has stopped again. She just doesn’t talk and she urinates frequently.” – Rebecca’s mother.

Rebecca’s story is particularly disturbing because the mother caught her husband in the act. They had a big fight because she spoke out against what he did, this resulted in Folake moving out of the house.

Why would a grown woman returned to live with a husband with sick fetish about his own daughter? Folake explains that the reason she returned was because she found out she was pregnant with twins so she felt it is the right thing to go back and raise the family together with Ademola especially when she thought he has changed.

I understand how everyone would encourage Folake to return to raise family with husband but what I don’t get is why she concealed husband secret of molesting his daughter.

Now the sick father repeated what he had done again to the same poor young soul in the middle of the night and the mother caught him again, this time he could not hit the wife, he went back to bed. It seems Folake had had enough by reporting Ademola to the police.

Not too surprising that Ademola has been released from police cell, very likely to strike again, this time with the twin girls – a father molesting his own baby child won’t change overnight, not especially when they all live one room.

I do hope that someone is sensible enough to realise Rebecca’s muteness is due to all that she has experienced. She clearly need plenty of understanding adults and fresh air away from molesting father.