STI – Jungle Fever and the danger of trusting White Expats in Nigeria

If you have an Oyinbo (Caucasian) friends or colleagues working anywhere in developing world and in this case Africa you are likely to see my points here.

For a taxi/molue drivers: Obalende or FESTAC.

For Oyinbos, rich Nigerians or young male breaking into the new world married or not: Pats Bar or Why Not in Victoria Island, or The Palm in Lekki present plenty of good-looking women looking to supplement their day job with extra income.

None of these were hidden.

Adults can do whatever they so pleased with their bodies when making sure they are not danger to people around – I do think people involved in this “trade” should be well informed on how best to protect themselves against infectious diseases, the benefits is not just for themselves but for other innocent people who through no fault of their own might get caught up in the mess.

Noticing a plaster on a friend’s inner elbow I asked what the plaster was for –  he just had a blood test. So I ask, why the blood test as worried if he was ill. His response was slow to come and because he had no reason to lie “I fell off the horse” he said. Well, as we all do everyday, abi? He didn’t think it was funny because he had a week or so to wait for the result, he was worried sick that he might have contacted HIV/AIDS in his last trip to Benin/Nigeria. He had a dream the night before that he was going to die so when he woke up he realises that he was still alive and decided to think about things that could kill him in real life then he remembered his trip to Benin where he went out in the evening to a club and had unprotected sex in a country where AIDS/HIV is as real as night and day.

For a minute, I struggled to see who gets my sympathy – Jonathan, who knows better and should have acted accordingly or the ignorant Benin lady who, am told had a condom with her and wanted to use it but the Oyinbo guy was too much “in the zone” to be bothered so Christiane ignored her instinct of “safety first” and followed Jonathan’s lead because that comes with extra juicy tips. The problem here with Christiane was that she trusted that Jonathan being Oyinbo acted sensibly at all times – she was wrong. One, because Jonathan has a wife and four children in Paris, the wife that trusted her husband would never do anything that might endanger their lives, – how wrong? Two, Jon’s wife perhaps understands the lifestyle of some expats in developing countries but she is likely to trust her husband to at least use proper protection.

Where do Nigeria prostitute “joints” come in to this. Jon works for a Lagos based company, he was only in Benin for a couple of days – if you visit a new country usually one wants to see the town and all that is peculiar there,  I guess for Jon “sampling” Benin women was his tourist attraction. Over the years, I have heard a lot about prostitution in Lagos, I usually pay a bit more attention to the expats stories, when in company of friends with no judgemental hat on – they are brutally honest and you can see how desperation to wear the latest designer outfits has pushed our sisters into oblivion. And by the way,  the common excuse – they are all students and must work to pay for fees. Really? You have to have Louis Vuitton matching bag/shoes to study?

Jon’s result came out negative. I was happy for him. I am still sad that ignorance is one key problem eating us alive in Nigeria and Africa.

Here: If Christiane had tested positive, she is unlikely to survive, actually she would have spread it to enough people both Oyinbos and local men before she will stop the trade. She is likely to die shortly after for lack of access to antiretroviral drugs.

If Jon was tested positive, he has higher chance of surviving the ordeal because his government would provide the supports in terms of antiretroviral drugs and emotional needs. He is unlikely to be stigmatised.

If you were going to sell your bodies, you owe yourself and the society to do it sensibly.